Healing the Inner Child Through Energy Therapy

The concept of the inner child has been familiar to me ever since I first encountered psychotherapy more than a decade ago. Most of us who feel the need for this type of therapy, even when we initially seek help for a specific issue troubling us at the time, are often led back to our childhood and our relationship with our parents.

It’s no surprise that the concept of the inner child appears everywhere and that people dedicate (much-needed) attention and work to it.

I won’t discuss this topic within the psychotherapy framework - although I sincerely recommend that anyone who wants to know themselves, understand their actions, behaviors, principles and beliefs should start there. Psychotherapy has provided me many insights and realizations on a rational level. I noticed how certain patterns in my adult behavior can be traced all the way back to unconscious beginnings and early upbringing.

However, when, after years of psychotherapy, my therapist told me: “Katarina, I think the answers to your questions are inside you and you can find them yourself,” I felt confused and, in a strange way, left on my own.

I’d be lying if I said it didn’t flatter me to hear that, since my rational mind - and my ego along with it - received some sort of “confirmation” that I was fine. But still, many questions and doubts remained that I wanted to resolve.

What Problem Led Me to an Energy Therapist?

The beauty of searching for answers is that it always leads you to people and mentors who can help you move forward. The fact that psychotherapy didn’t give me all the answers didn't stop me; on the contrary, it encouraged me to search deeper. When it comes to energetic or spiritual work, I was always a skeptic and would only work with people recommended by someone I trust.

When I first called my current mentor and therapist, I didn’t know how to define my problem. I wasn't sure how someone practicing energy therapy could help me - what kind of approach they'd use, what the dynamics were or at what level things were actually being resolved.

I told her, “Two things come to me intuitively. First - I feel stuck. I have everything in life, but I don’t feel that I’m living my purpose, or that who I currently am is who I’m meant to be for the rest of my life.”

“The second thing - I carry an enormous amount of sadness inside me. I’m often sad, which doesn’t resonate with who I am, because by nature, I’m a happy and optimistic person. I feel this sadness isn’t truly mine, but I can’t explain it any better.”

She said she completely understood the problem. Once again, I felt distrust - how could she know what lies behind my words after just 30 minutes of conversation? Still, that initial doubt transformed into trust after only three sessions together.

First Encounter With the Inner Child Through Energy Therapy

Before working with the inner child, I had done other types of sessions, which I now combine - with inner child work - in my practice with clients. I believe in resolving the cause of the problem, not merely addressing the symptoms that return like a boomerang in the same or different form. However, with any approach, it’s important to understand who is sitting across from us and how much the person is ready to receive - information, advice, techniques and healing.

This topic came up less than two months into the work, through meditation. Meditation isn’t a process of stopping thoughts, escaping reality or a magical method to instantly solve problems. But it is an excellent way to look deeper into yourself and see what’s within you. It helps you understand what and who you are, and what you can do with all that light and energy you carry inside.

When I first encountered "little me", I was shocked by how clearly I could see and feel her. In front of me sat a four-year-old child who felt lonely, abandoned and somehow neglected. The biggest challenge at first was to surrender to the images and emotions without rational interference or interpretation of what I was seeing.

Naturally, the mind began explaining: “That’s not true! My parents were always there for me! What I see isn’t real!” Consciously, that was true. But the essence of this kind of work is diving into the subconscious and seeing what lies beneath.

Communication With the Inner Child Through Theta Brain Waves

The best way to describe the theta brainwave state is as a relaxed, creative, and subconscious state, with a frequency of 4-8 Hz, which occurs during sleep, deep meditation or daydreaming. It forms a bridge between conscious and subconscious thought. It’s a deeply relaxed state, similar to autopilot, associated with intuition, problem-solving, vivid dreams and memory consolidation.

This is a guided process and if you’ve never faced such work before or if the concept seems foreign or unclear, I suggest doing it at least the first time with someone experienced.

I began communicating with my miniature version of myself. For easier understanding, I’ll use “Adult” for my adult self and “Child” for my younger self.

The First Experience of Meeting My Inner Child

Adult: Hi love, can I give you a hug?

She came to me immediately and I could feel how much she needed that hug. She wanted someone to hold her. Sitting on my lap, she looked into the distance, her eyes sad. She was unbelievably calm and gentle.

Adult: How are you feeling now, sweetheart?

Child: I’m sad and scared.

Adult: What are you afraid of, love?

Child: That I’ll be left alone.

At that moment, I felt my heart shatter into a million tiny pieces. I felt physical pain in my chest. I cried and sobbed like a child, overwhelmed by sorrow - especially knowing that loneliness and fear of abandonment were my recurring life themes.

Adult: You’ll never be alone, my love. I’m always here for you and will always be by your side. I’m not going anywhere.

Child: How do I know you won’t leave?

Behind those words hid a deep sense of distrust. She didn’t believe my promise that I wouldn’t leave.

Adult: Because I don’t want to leave - and I can’t leave you. I am you and you are me. If I go, you go with me.

Child: How come you’re so big?

Adult: I grew up, sweetheart.

Child: You’re beautiful.

When she said that, she smiled so wide her eyes began to shine. I cried even harder - this time, I found myself doubting her words. This revealed the belief I held about myself and how I saw myself. It hurt to realize how rarely I recognized my own beauty - whether inside or out.

Adult: Thank you, sunshine! You’re beautiful and wonderful too. Do you still feel sad?

Child: Yes.

Adult: Why?

Child: Because Mom and Dad don’t love me.

This was especially hard to accept as an adult. I was overwhelmed with sadness and - by the fact that this belief was deeply imprinted in my subconscious, for reasons I didn’t yet understand. Yet, consciously I knew it wasn’t true.

Adult: Why do you think Mom and Dad don’t love you?

Child: Because they never want to play with me. They keep scolding me and telling me I’m not good.

Adult: Mom and Dad love you very much, love. Maybe they just don’t know how to show their love in a way you understand, but they love you deeply. Is there something you'd want us to do together?

Little me lay down and began drawing the sun, moon and stars.

Adult: Why are you drawing the moon and stars? Do you love stars?

Child: Yes. I see stars in the dark when I’m in the village.

Adult: Which village? Who’s there with you?

Child: I’m there with Grandma and Great-Grandma and Great-Grandpa. Every night we look at the stars.

Adult: Do you like being there?

Child: Well… yes and no.

Adult: Why not?

Child: Because Mom and Dad aren’t there.

The Subconscious Guides Our Lives

Great-Grandma and Great-Grandpa were my mother’s grandparents. I remember sitting in my great-grandfather’s lap as a child. We’d gaze at the stars - he’d catch fireflies and draw on my hands. When my hands began glowing in the dark, it felt magical to me - and he was a real magician.

Yet, as beautiful as that memory was on a rational level, through meditation and in a deep theta state, I understood that my longing for my parents - and the time I missed with them - were replaced with a more pleasant image and memory. And that’s what our minds do. If we were constantly aware of every painful moment, emotion and experience, and kept reliving them, we couldn’t function in daily life. We’d be full of distrust, fear, pain - even hatred or resentment.

The mind’s role is to protect us - to warn us about potential danger, to remind us not to touch the hot stove again. But in our subconscious, we store nearly all unpleasant experiences we don’t want to remember - those too painful to face every day.

That’s why, if we truly want to understand our behavior, beliefs, relationships with others and, most importantly, our relationship with ourselves, we have to face what we keep hidden in our subconscious.

This process must be approached gently, but it also needs healing, so it stops controlling our lives. Only by healing those painful, neglected parts of ourselves can we truly experience transformation in who we are and how we relate to life.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” -

Carl Jung

Inner Child Healing Workshops

We're organising Inner Child Workshops several times per year. The work is being done in small group of maximum 8 participants.

Healing your inner child means shifting from harsh self-judgment and doubt to embracing empathy, kindness and emotional safety. To help your younger self trust and relax within your adult awareness, you’ll need a steady stream of care and consistent support.

This Inner Child Healing Workshop creates a safe space where you can practice holding your emotions with understanding and warmth. You’ll learn to tune into the energy of your feelings - this work operates on an energetic and emotional level rather than a step-by-step process.